Having sex can be one of the most incredible experiences in the world, unfortunately, it can also be difficult sometimes. Often, when a man and a woman have sex, the woman never gets to orgasm, especially if it’s her first time, and that can be pretty frustrating.
You already know that it can be difficult for women to have an orgasm, but you probably don’t know why. So, why is it difficult for women to have an orgasm? Well, the answer to that isn’t exactly simple, but it’s not very complicated either. During sex, women often feel that reaching orgasm is something they have to do in order to pleasure the man they’re with, and frankly, that can be stressful. Neither men nor women should feel like they have a responsibility during sex because when they do, it can be a huge turn-off, keeping them from reaching an orgasm.
So, in a nutshell, what’s normally keeps a woman from having an orgasm is the feeling of responsibility to do so. It’s stupid, no one should be limited like that or have to feel responsible for something they’re really not.
Contrary to popular belief, having sex is about so much more than just penetration, in fact, it’s mostly about stimulation. Since it can sometimes be hard for women to reach an orgasm, especially a squirting orgasm, it’s important for men to consider more than one stimulation technique, including, but not limited to, fingering. Below, you’ll find a few tips on how to properly finger women, stimulating them enough to have an orgasm and, in some cases, a squirting orgasm.
1. Take care of your fingernails.
Honestly, this point cannot be stressed enough. Having short and clean fingernails is a must before fingering a woman, otherwise, they can feel incredibly uncomfortable and the experience can be painful and disgusting.
This might be a surprise to you, but not all women are alike and they’re not all driven by the same thing. When fingering a woman, don’t forget to ask her what she likes or if she’s feeling alright, sometimes they’re too shy to say anything even when they’re uncomfortable. Once you know what she likes and what drives her crazy, take a go at it.
3. Tease her.
It might sound less important, but teasing can actually lead to orgasm as much as anything else. When teasing, make sure you take your time before starting to touch her vagina. Start by gently kissing her body and getting her aroused, then try to get close to her vaginal section without touching it and when you notice she’s fully aroused, begin contact.
4. Don’t forget about lube.
Lube isn’t always oil, in fact, for those of you who don’t know, when women get aroused, their vagina produces water, which can work just as well. If the water produced by the vagina isn’t enough, use a little bit of oil to avoid rashes and painful experiences, after all, you want to give her the time of her life. Remember to check the oil’s ingredients though, you don’t want any harsh chemicals going in her vagina.
5. Stimulate her g-spot.
Men are often in the dark about how women’s bodies work, especially in a sexual manner. The g-spot is a spot about 2 – 3 inches inside the vagina and stimulating it might lead to potential an orgasm. Regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman, take your first two fingers (index & middle) and gently push them into the vagina. Finding the g-spot can be hard, but once you do, gently massage it by moving your fingers in a circular motion, curling them up (with your fingertips facing up), or moving them from side to side.
So yeah, it’s sometimes difficult for women to have an orgasm during sex. Applied correctly though, other methods (in this case fingering) can be an extremely stimulating idea that just might get a woman to reach an amazing orgasm. Make sure you try these tips next time you’re having fun with your girlfriend or wife, they’ll guarantee she feels fireworks and has the best time of her life.